Q. Our son graduated from college after five long years and is now back at home. The plan is for him to join the military, but in the meantime he’s sleeping a lot, socializing with friends and kind of looking for work. But his on-again/off-again girlfriend is a big problem.
My husband hates her. Three years ago she and our son told us (not asked us) that they were getting married, apparently because her parents were moving out of state. She didn’t want to go, so they decided that they would marry and move to the West Coast where he was going to school, even though we live on the East Coast.
We then told our son, “Go ahead, but we will no longer support you in school” and then we met with her family without our son to see if they were really behind this idea.
That’s when the problem developed. My husband did not like the attitude of the girlfriend who said that she was going to do what she wanted to do, no matter what anyone thought. No wedding took place, however, and she moved away with her family — but then she convinced them to move back.