Adapted from a recent online discussion.
On using one’s will to make a statement to survivors:
When my grandfather died, he disinherited my father and left everything to Dad’s younger brother. There really wasn’t any money involved, just possessions. My uncle gave Dad nothing, not even a photograph! When my father died 10 years after my mother passed away, he left everything to my older sister. There was money involved and everything my parents owned, including many items from my mother’s family. My sister shared nothing with me . . . again, not even a photograph.
In late 2006 my sister’s husband passed away after a 41-year marriage. They had two grown sons and four grandchildren. Within 90 days, she moved her old high school sweetheart in from across the country. They were married in early 2008. That year my sister had a new will written. She was given a diagnosis of advanced pancreatic cancer and died within 90 days.