Reader: I am a big guy. I will not lie — I like food, and I am responsible for the consequences. There are other factors, too: genetics, medications I take and activity-limiting health issues. Yet I have taken only one sick day in 20 years at my company. I go to medical appointments off the clock. My health has never affected my performance, and I have never asked for special accommodations. I have piles of commendations and awards to prove that I do my job very well.
I am working with a doctor, physical therapist and nutritionist, and have a diet and exercise plan. I have lost 45 pounds. My problem is a fitness nut co-worker (same managerial level) who has begun posting signs around the office about how ugly fat people are and how fit people are “more useful” than overweight people, etc. He makes nasty comments about my weight in front of my people and uses any reason to call me incompetent.