While I’m away, readers give the advice.
On conquering self-esteem issues:
I had a self-esteem problem in my early 20s. The best advice I ever received — and it’s so simple, it’s astounding — was “Run your own race.”
I worked, hard, on training myself to repeat that phrase anytime I was being overcritical of myself, or comparing myself with others. It taught me to be the best version of myself, not a poor imitation of someone else. It truly changed my life.
On not being thrilled about the child on the way:
I am a 51-year-old woman who has a healthy, close relationship with my mom.
For a college assignment, I interviewed Mom about my earliest beginnings. I learned she was surprised by the pregnancy and in fact refused to accept that she was pregnant until she outgrew her clothes. At the time she was 24, and already had a 3-year-old and a 1-year-old. She told herself that once the baby came, she would feel differently . . . but she didn’t.