ATLANTA — As part of its new plan to address black women’s wellness- and obesity-related health issues, Spelman College recently hosted “The Best Advice I Ever Got: Conversations with Wise Women.”
Featured alongside health and fitness professionals was plus-size comic-turned-Oscar-winning actress Mo’Nique. The star told students how she for years owned the “sexy big-girl thing,” sticking with it when industry experts warned she’d never make it in Hollywood.
The big-and-sexy trademark worked so well, Mo’Nique said, that when her husband asked her weight, she told him, “proudly, as sexy as I could, ‘262 pounds.’ ”
When her husband responded, “That’s too much,” Mo’Nique was dumbstruck. Until he added, “I want you for a lifetime.”
No loved one had ever told her, “That’s too much weight.” Deeply moved, Mo’Nique reflected on all she secretly carried that was “too much”: too much depression, too much anger, too much shifting the “poison” of her rage onto others. Her “best advice” to Spelman students: Shush the “fraudulent” inner voice that suggests you settle for less. “Will yourself to win.”