Affair

Dear Carolyn: How do I break the news to my friend that I have been seeing her (recent) ex-boyfriend? I'm prepared to lose the friendship, but I want to minimize how hurt she gets, if possible. I guess I'm thinking specifically of altering the timeline, so there's more distance between when they broke up and when we started dating. Anonymous The first three letters of "timeline"? TMI. Oh, close enough. To be clear, you and he have already taken the action that hurts your friend, so there's no...

SIOUX FALLS, S.D. — President Barack Obama's top official on tribal issues was expected to attend a summit this week in South Dakota aimed at sorting out allegations that the state regularly violates federal law by removing American Indian children from their homes and placing them in foster care with non-Indian families. Kevin Washburn, the U.S. Interior Department's assistant secretary for Indian affairs, planned to meet with leaders from South Dakota's nine Indian tribes for the...

I am a gay man. My partner lives 12 time zones away. We are in a monogamous relationship, and we do not cheat. We get to see each other only twice a year for less than three weeks. Although he is a professional in marketing, the United States will not let him immigrate because he was not picked in the lottery. The federal government would not recognize our relationship if I married him. The government will not allow us to be together. South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford ["S.C. Gov. Sanford Admits to an Affair," front page, June 25]

Hi, Carolyn: How do I start trusting my wife again? Three years ago, I caught her (52) having an affair with a 29-year-old aide who came to our house to help with our autistic son. One of my first questions to her was, "What did I fail to give you?" We went the counseling route, and as the months passed I knew she would text or write him, but I dealt with these things as they came up. She was repentant and wanted to make it work — and I love her. About a year and a half into counseling, I stumbled across...

A Las Vegas area woman who once worked for Sen. John Ensign of Nevada acknowledged yesterday that she was the senator's mistress in an extramarital affair that has cost the onetime emerging GOP star his spot at the leadership table with Senate Republicans. Cynthia L. Hampton, who was treasurer for Ensign's political committees, said she had an affair with the senator that lasted more than eight months. Her statement was issued by an attorney retained by her and her husband, Douglas D. Hampton, who also served as...

Dear Carolyn: Approximately 10 years ago, my wife had an affair with our daughter's soccer coach. Of the nearly 7 billion people on the planet, she was adamant that she had found her "soul mate. " Not only has she never really apologized for the affair, but I also had to beg her not to leave, primarily to keep our two kids close to their friends and extended family, as we could not afford our neighborhood in a divorce and would have had to move away. Both kids eventually graduated from...

Heading into the second full day of John Ensign self-immolation watch, we check in with crisis management professionals to learn exactly How Deep a Mess He's In. The message is: Senator, if you want to shock us, you are going to have to do worse than that. Details about the Nevada lawmaker's affair with a former campaign staffer, which he publicly admitted Tuesday, are still emerging. There could yet be salacious revelations beyond our wildest imaginations. But -- and here's Ensign's lucky break -- our imaginations...

FBI agents searched the home of the woman at the center of the scandal involving former CIA director David H. Petraeus on Monday evening, carrying away boxes and bags of material and taking photographs inside her home in Charlotte. A senior law enforcement official said the agents were searching for any classified or sensitive documents that may have been in the possession of Paula Broadwell, a former military officer and Petraeus biographer whose extramarital affair with him...

Sidwell Friends School is being sued for $10 million for allegedly failing to supervise a staff psychologist who was having an affair with the married mother of a 5-year-old student he was counseling. The woman's husband and girl's father, Arthur G. "Terry" Newmyer, made the allegations in a lawsuit filed Thursday in D.C. Superior Court, in which he also said that he had alerted the school to the alleged affair over the course of a year. In his lawsuit, Newmyer said...

Atlanta woman Ginger White dealt yet another blow to Herman Cain's presidential campaign Monday when she told an Atlanta television station she'd had a 13-year affair with the presidential hopeful, which she said ended a few months ago. Krissah Thompson and Sandhya Somashekhar found out more about Ginger White's background : The woman whose accusations may have prompted Herman Cain to reassess his campaign for president is a 46-year-old single...

WASHINGTON — Politicians love few things better than a scandal to trip up their opponents, and Republicans hope last year's fatal attack on U.S. diplomats in Libya will do exactly that to Hillary Rodham Clinton and other Democrats. History suggests it might be a tough lift. The issue is complex, the next presidential election is more than three years away, and a number of reports and officials have disputed criticisms of Clinton's role when she was secretary of state. Still,...

BALTIMORE — A lawyer with the Baltimore city government who handles police department cases has been appointed as the department's new head of internal affairs. Rodney Hill replaces Grayling Williams, who left the department in March after about a year on the job. Hill is a former Montgomery County police officer who rose to the rank of lieutenant before earning his law degree. He then worked as an assistant state's attorney in Baltimore County and as a lawyer for Morgan...

A 57-year-old Leesburg woman charged with first-degree murder in the fatal stabbing of her husband was convinced that he had an extramarital affair and fathered a child outside the marriage, according to testimony at a preliminary hearing Thursday. Dae Hwang called police shortly after 6 a.m. March 2 and told them that she had killed her husband, Kyung Hwang, 63, authorities said. Kyung was found dead with multiple stab wounds in an upstairs bedroom of their home on Chickasaw Place.

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Jackson Diehl's March 18 op-ed column, "Who will speak for Payá?," ignored the political considerations of public comments by government officials. Mr. Diehl seemed to expect Spanish Foreign Minister José Manuel García-Margello to say something that could put in jeopardy a treaty that recently freed from a Cuban jail a man who was, likely, completely innocent. This same treaty will allow future Spaniards falsely or otherwise imprisoned in Cuba to return to Spain, and frequently to be immediately...

LOS ANGELES — In his first public speech since resigning as head of the CIA, David Petraeus apologized for the extramarital affair that "caused such pain for my family, friends and supporters. " The hero of the Iraq and Afghanistan wars struck a somber, apologetic tone as he spoke to about 600 people, including his wife and many uniformed and decorated veterans, at the University of Southern California's annual ROTC dinner on Tuesday night. "I know I can never fully assuage the pain that I...

Mayor Vincent C. Gray is standing by his newly nominated housing chief, who admitted Tuesday to leaving his previous job after having an affair with a subordinate. Michael P. Kelly, whom Gray tapped Monday to lead the city's Department of Housing and Community Development , said in an interview that his relationship with a senior staff member at the Philadelphia Housing Authority constituted "an incredible lapse of judgment. " But he said he did not use his position as executive director to benefit the woman and that he is...

Dear Amy: I have been having a same-sex affair with a married man who has two children. Now he says the affair is over. He says he is staying in his unhappy marriage because of the luxurious life he has. His in-laws are socially well-connected. He told me that he told his wife before they got married that he had been with men, and yet they still got married. He told me he has cheated with other men, especially during the time when his wife was pregnant. He asked me to have...

A 57-year-old Leesburg woman accused of fatally stabbing her husband believed that he was having an affair, police said in court papers. Dae Hwang called 911 just after 6 a.m. March 2 and said she had killed her husband, Kyung Hwang, 63, police have said. Shortly before that, she had called her daughter and said that Kyung had confessed to an affair, police said in an affidavit for a search warrant. Kyung was found dead with multiple stab wounds in an upstairs bedroom of the couple's home on Chickasaw Place.

The Senate's top leaders on military affairs added their voices Monday to the list of lawmakers asking the Pentagon to rethink its plans for a new military medal to honor drone pilots and cyber­warriors who work far from the battlefield. In a letter to Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel, Sens. Carl Levin (Mich.) and James M. Inhofe (Okla.), the Democratic chairman and top Republican on the Senate Armed Services Committee, respectively, said that the new Distinguished...